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For the follow-up to In the Company of Men, the misogyny-on-parade debut that became an out of nowhere indie hit, auteur Neil LaBute wrote and directed a piece that gives more equal representation to ... read more read more...the shortcomings of both genders than his earlier film. Three men stand on one side: Cary (Jason Patrick), a womanizing doctor who rehearses make-out lines and keeps his body almost grotesquely ripped; Jerry (Ben Stiller), a self-obsessed theater instructor who chews over every emotion like a morsel of dessert; and Barry (Aaron Eckhart), a man grown soft in his marriage to a woman who can't satisfy him sexually as well as he can himself. On the other side we have three equally well-defined women: Terri (Catherine Keener), a writer/editor whose prefers to keep words out of the bedroom, much to the chagrin of live-in beau Jerry; Mary (Amy Brenneman), a freelance writer whose attempts to find her own sexual fulfillment with both husband Barry and paramour Jerry meet with a similar lack of success; and Cheri (Nastassja Kinski), an art assistant who meets most of the other characters one by one at a gallery but directs her sylph-like affections in an unexpected direction. The lies, double-crosses, and confrontations between these characters resolve into a sinisterly comic indictment of the very idea of romantic fulfillment. ~ Brian J. Dillard, Rovi

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R, 1 hr. 41 min.

Directed by: Neil LaBute

Release Date: August 19, 1998

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DVD Release Date: May 1, 2001

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  • April 16, 2011
    Neil LaBute's follow up to "In the Company of Men" is another brilliantly vicious and savage dark dramedy... this time focusing on the destruction of a few unhappy couples and the web of "relationships" spawned during and in the aftermath. LaBute is in a league of his own when it... read more comes to making a film about completely repulsive and unlikeable people and having his film be anything but. He cooks with disturbing material here, but manages to keep it riveting, real, and frequently (uncomfortably) comedic. Strong cast, but Jason Patrick is the standout, giving a career best performance and laying down one of the most unforgettable and disturbing speeches I've heard in the movies. "Your Friends and Neighbors" is an excellent film with A LOT to say. Viewers who can handle the film's harsh subject-matter will be rewarded.
  • February 14, 2011
    Neil LaBute's "Your Friends & Neighbors" is quite possibly the meanest film I have ever seen. These characters are some of, if not, the worst I have ever come across. What makes them worse than, say Hannibal Lecter, is how they stealthily move behind each others backs to wound ea... read morech other in the worst and most emotionally damaging ways. You should not be treading lightly when you sit down to view this picture. It's a nasty piece of work. So then why is my rating so high? Because it's also a terrific film. The acting is tremendous and LaBute (who is also a playwright) has some insanely fine tuned dialogue. My guess is that if you don't like hard relationship drama's like "Closer" you wont even come across "Your Friends & Neighbors," and I think that those who search it out will find much to admire. Think of this film as what would become of the college kids in Roger Avery's "The Rules of Attraction" once they hit middle age.
  • April 29, 2009
    its an ok movie a bit weird and some of the time im not to shore as to what is actually going on really but i guess watchable but isnt that interesting to be honest with not much of a storyline
  • November 12, 2008
    Another Interesting movie by LaBute, & it was the first time that I didn't find Stiller annoying
  • January 4, 2008
    a brutal black comedy about sex and relationships. nearly as painful as todd solondz' happiness and almost as harsh as labute's wicked first feature, in the company of men. there's not a really likeable character in this film. you've been warned
  • November 30, 2007
    I bought this VHS at random in a dollar bin. It made me want to take a shower for eternity.
  • October 23, 2006
    One of the meanest movies I've ever seen. So yeah, I loved it.
  • April 7, 2012
    Aside from a few key scenes, "Your Friends & Neighbors" is not as uncomfortable as the other two offerings in Neil LaBute's unofficial trilogy. That being said, it is dark and mean, but delivers its cynicism with a good sense of humor. All actors do a great job, but Jason Patric... read more stands out the most as the sadistic doctor. His "Nobody Actually Likes You" scene is brutal, as well as the infamous locker room monologue.
  • June 23, 2010
    I like how LaBute builds tension with just actors. It's something he should remember when signing on to do his next film. He used to be able have a smart, gifted young cast take his words and throw them into an emotional galaxy worth watching. Now, not so much.
    This is a rough, ... read moresometimes uncomfortable viewing. And the ending really didn't know what it wanted to do. I wanted Aaron Eckhart's character to flip a lid, but he never did.
    The great thing about this film is that it pushes buttons and makes your squirm with its brutal honesty, but it has no clear resolution, there is no clear change. This is probably what LaBute wanted, but it's just too cynical, almost a sign of laziness.
  • April 17, 2010
    Filled with his requisite casually toxic character's, Neil LaBute's little drama follows the lives of two couples and a bachelor friend who is quite possibly the most sociopathic character one might encounter outside of a horror film.

    Well-acted and filled with dark humor in bet... read moreween the more disturbing personal betrayals, this one is well worth a watch.

    Recommended.

Critic Reviews


Emanuel Levy
March 26, 2009
Emanuel Levy, Variety

This honorable follow-up to LaBute's stunning debut, In the Company of Men, which also dissects sexual politics, is well acted by the entire ensemble. Full Review

John Haslett Cuff
April 25, 2003
John Haslett Cuff, Globe and Mail

It is superbly executed and, for all its pitilessness, it's an intelligent dramatization of the impact that consumerist values have had on the psyche of the North American middle class at the end of t... Full Review

Peter Travers
May 11, 2001
Peter Travers, Rolling Stone

With LaBute, you get a filmmaker who cuts to the timeless heart of sexual warfare.

James Berardinelli
January 1, 2000
James Berardinelli, ReelViews

It's refreshing to see a movie like this -- something that's edgy and entertaining, and doesn't try to appeal to 'the masses.' Full Review

January 1, 2000
Entertainment Weekly

Bleak, scathing, and utterly compelling! Full Review

Jeff Millar
January 1, 2000
Jeff Millar, Houston Chronicle

Hilarious! Full Review

Kenneth Turan
January 1, 2000
Kenneth Turan, Los Angeles Times

Confuses a kind of juvenile titillation with insight and treats the ability to make audiences squirm as a pinnacle of film art. Full Review

Roger Ebert
January 1, 2000
Roger Ebert, Chicago Sun-Times

LaBute's Your Friends and Neighbors is to In the Company of Men as Quentin Tarantino's Pulp Fiction was to Reservoir Dogs. Full Review

J. Hoberman
January 1, 2000
J. Hoberman, Village Voice

A fascinatingly mean-spirited erotic comedy set in a realm of self-absorbed fantasy and overdetermined intergender misunderstanding. Full Review

Stephen Hunter
January 1, 2000
Stephen Hunter, Washington Post

The film has no shape or narrative force. It merely chronicles events. Full Review

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